“It’s all right to love someone who doesn’t love you back, as long as they’re worth you loving them. As long as they deserve it.”
This is quite possibly one of my favorite quotes that I have ever come across, which is convenient since Cassandra Clare is my favorite author. I remember reading this and being struck by how powerful the words were to me at the time. I find that often I am drawn to certain quotes or words that reflect my thoughts and feelings at the time being able to relate to them. These quotes are able to convey what I often struggle to express both outward and often inward.
I whole heartily agree with this statement, and have often said something along the lines to others as well as myself. There may be times that you find yourself loving a person who does not return these feeling for whatever reason. This is something that can be very difficult to deal with. You may question what is wrong with you that stops this person from loving you. But there is nothing wrong with who you are. The movie 500 Days of Summer does a great job expressing this. Just because you love someone, doesn’t mean they are going to love you the same in return, and that’s ok. It just means that this person is not the right match for you. So should you hate this person for not loving you? Blame them for not returning your feelings? No. Sure, you may be hurt or angry, but be angry and hurt at the situation not the person, especially if they are honest and truthful with you. Think of the situation in reverse, if there was someone who loved you yet you didn’t return their feelings. Is it fair for that person to ask of you what you can not give back honestly? We can not demand of someone what they do not have to give.
So should we be angry with ourselves for loving someone who does not return that love? I ask that you think of whether this person is deserving of this love. Do you believe that they are worth these feelings you have for them, are they worth holding onto a piece of your heart? If they are, than your love is not wasted. I would rather love a worthy and deserving person with my whole heart, even if those same feeling weren’t returned then to waste even a portion of that same love on a person who doesn’t deserve it. Not only am I worthy of love, I feel that my love is something that should only be shared with those that are worthy enough to receive it.