“I’m unhappy. I don’t want to fall in love with you. It’ll hurt far too much when it’s over”
~The Girl Who Kicked the Hornet’s Nest
I once heard someone say that it is the person that can make you feel the best, that also has the ability to make you feel the worst. To me this applies to any relationship, not just with the romantic kind. Love is a difficult thing because you are giving a part of yourself to someone else, and if that is taken away or abused for any reason the hurt left behind is terrible.
Sometimes it may feel it is easier just not to show or fall in love. If you don’t put your heart out there, it can’t get hurt can it. There have been a few times in my life after I was hurt by someone I loved, or at least felt I could love, where I wondered if it was even worth the pain. It sure seemed to hurt a lot less before I put myself in a position to get hurt. Once you have experienced that pain, the idea of going through it again doesn’t seem appealing. And there are no guarantees in life that someone won’t hurt you.
I guess it just comes down to whether you believe the potential positives that will come from giving your love to someone outweighs the potential hurt that will come if it ends. If you believe the person if worth it, then so is the pain.